What makes a man?

This morning I was trying to help my husband find some good material on Biblical Manhood online. What I found disgusted me. First of all, I'd like to know where all the King James Bible believers are. Everything I found in my searches used a plethora of "Bible" versions. Some of what they had to say was good, but how can they teach on Manhood when they don't have the stamina to stand on God's Word?

Secondly, several of the sites used pictures of half dressed men and woman. On one blog about Biblical Manhood, the graphic they used was of a Greek goddess with half her breast exposed and a "Hercules" type man. One had an advertisement in the corner of a scantily clad woman saying something like, "I'm looking for a man like you." It was an ad for a "christian" online dating service.

IF you can find something more sound, it often portrays a "He-man", Dictatorship type of manhood. No wonder our boys are growing up to be confused men. Biblical manhood is NOT just being the head of the home, working schedule hours then resting while the wife continues to serve and work until she goes to bed.

I never realized how blessed I am to have a husband who is man enough to help me with my responsibilities. My husband does dishes, he will throw in a load (however ill-sorted or over-sized) in the washer for me, he even cooks on occasion for the two of us. He says, "I love you" and says it often. He is man enough to spend time with our children reading books, singing out of tune songs, and hugging them. He is man enough to take a stand on God's Word and preach without compromise. I thank God for giving me a true man.

One thing I did read this morning that was good was this... "Others may not consider (him) a man's man, but (he) will be God's man."

David was considered a man after God's own heart. Did his sexual conquests make him that? NO! Did his wealth make him that? No, Christ was poor and yet He is the ultimate example of manhood. Did his quivers full of children make him that? No, he was considered a man after God's own heart before he ever married. Was it his great power and position of authority? Not likely!

What made David God's man? He was man enough to put his faith in God. He was man enough to know that he wasn't man enough without God's help. He was man enough to know his weaknesses. He was man enough to seek forgiveness. He was man enough to forgive. He was man enough to fear an Almighty God. He was man enough to serve. He was man enough to take a stand when it was unpopular. He was man enough to value God more than his own life. He was man enough to cry. He was man enough to love. He was man enough to grieve. He was man enough to PRAY. He was man enough to hide God's Word in his heart... Do I need to go on?

As for finding good, KJV Bible study material on manhood online... I guess we'll just have to write some ourselves.

If you have a husband who is striving to be a man of God, thank God today for him. He is indeed a rare treasure. Encourage him. Do what you can to make his job easier. Thank him!

If you're harboring bitterness because your husband or son doesn't measure up, take it to the Lord. Only God can change the heart of a man. None of our men are perfect, just as David wasn't perfect. Let's be careful that our pride hasn't convince us that we deserved someone better. Ask yourself this, "Am I the woman God wants me to be?" Then focus on that answer and strive to be a woman of God. God is "Man" enough to take care of your man.

If you are dreaming about what kind of man you wish to marry. Make sure you are holding him up to God's standard. Don't fall into the trap of fairytale dreams. DON'T waste your time with books on romance and manhood. Study God's Word and set that as your standard. Did you realize that Christ was not considered comely? The "great" Paul the Apostle was physically weak. Moses had a speech impediment. Peter lacked social graces. A real hero is a man who will follow God at all costs, who will stand on God's Word even when its unpopular, who will treat you like the weaker vessel while respecting you as an equal partner, a real man will put his faith in God. A real man knows that it is not he who provides for his family, but God Who provides through his faithfulness to God's calling.

If it's too late for your man in the sense that your marriage is beyond repair. Focus on your sons and daughters, nieces and nephews, the children in your church family. Make sure you are teaching them what it means in God's Word to be a man. Lord willing, the boys will grow up to be God's men and the girls will respect manhood and pray for a man of God to lead her.

What makes a boy a man? Fear and Faith in God.


Anonymous said...

Hi Julie - Great post! My brother-in-law write a blog on manhood that, although it is not overtly biblical, is influenced in multiple ways by our take on scripture's definition of manhood. It may not be exactly what you're looking for, but the URL is

We'd love to hear your perspective on anything we've written.

Good luck in your search!


J.H said...

I love your writting sister, and I love your blog. Would you mind if I share some of your insight in my blog?
Thank you for being a blessing, it makes me realise how man like my husband are a rare comodity in this modern world.

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